Your wedding is all about you and your partner. Together, you get to make all of the design decisions, plan out how your day will go, choose your guest list, pick your vendors and opt for traditional, non-traditional or a combination of both.
Your wedding day should be unique and true to you. That means you don’t have to follow the usual wedding traditions. Whether you’d rather wear a beautiful jumpsuit or 2-piece than a white or ivory dress, or you’d like to keep your wedding party small and not have bridesmaids or groomsmen, it’s totally up to you. In this post, I want to share 5 Wedding Traditions You Don’t Have to Follow. This post was inspired by past couples and their decision to forego tradition.
Vows are such a personal thing. While you can absolutely find readings that resonate with you or lyrics from a song you claim as yours, this is an opportunity to express your true thoughts and feelings about the person you’re committing to sharing your life with. This may be the only time in your life when you will stand before each other and pour out your heart. If you feel called to ditch those scripts, join those who are now choosing to write their own vows to make it a truly meaningful moment of the day.
This is great for a number of reasons, especially if your man doesn’t like to be the center of attention. Check out this article for more tips on how to include your man and let him know you are keeping his opinions in mind.
Do you have to wait until the ceremony for the first look? No way! Couples are now opting for a first look before the ceremony to make this a moment for just the two of you. You won’t have much time alone on your wedding day, so I highly recommend this moment.
Your bridesmaids and groomsmen no longer have to wear the same outfits. Instead, they can choose different colors or different styles. No more feeling uncomfortable or trying to find one-fits-all attire. You chose these people as your bridesmaids and groomsmen because you love who they are, so why not let them express their personality and unique style through their dresses or suits? You may also choose to have your groom wear a different color suit coat and or tie so that he stands out from the other groomsmen.
The traditional bridal march is old news, feel free to pick something different! Make this moment even more special by choosing something meaningful to you. Whether you want to make it fun or just have a beautiful twist on the original bridal march, put your own take on the most magical walk of your life. It’s likely that your guests have been to a few weddings in their days, take this opportunity to incorporate new songs. When you exit as a newly married couple, play something that will leave your guests saying “this song is totally them”.
This tradition brings with it mixed emotions. Some feel the garter removal is disrespectful to older guests and to the bride’s father. Some don’t want to single out their single friends (perhaps they don’t want to get married or actually want to propose themselves). A garter and toss bouquet is another added expense and if the toss doesn’t hold any significance to you, don’t feel like you need to uphold tradition just because it’s “tradition”.
Like going on honeymoon the day after your wedding, giving wedding favors, a 3 tier cake, separate parent dances or being carried over the threshold of your home together. As long as the day is filled with love and spent with those you want to share it with, you’ll be sure to make lots of memories.
I would love to capture those specials moments and document your day! Let’s set up a coffee date and chat details about your wedding. I can’t wait for us to connect!
What wedding traditions have you chosen not to follow? Please comment below, we’d love to know!!
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