August 6, 2018

How To Include My Man In Wedding Planning

How To Include My Man In Wedding Planning

Your guy finally pops the question and now you’re engaged to the man of your dreams! After the champagne is poured and the news begins to spread, it’s time to start planning the day you’ve been dreaming about since you were little!

Your fiancé doesn’t seem as thrilled or as committed to planning as you thought he would be.

You might be wondering what you can do to include your man in the wedding planning without feeling like you are nagging him non-stop!

I am here to help!! With just a couple of tips, you can make this amazing time in your lives enjoyable and deepen your connection while building on both of your strengths. Let’s get started!! 

1. Ask For & Listen to His Opinions 

I know this sounds obvious but make sure you are making him feel heard.

When you ask for his opinion take his response to heart

You may be the one talking the lead with the vendors and gathering ideas, but keep him informed along the way and ask for his feedback. Make the process of choosing each vendor a shared decision and soon he will enjoy giving his input instead of just saying “Sure honey, it’s your day”.

Here are a few open-ended questions that may spark his imagination:

  • “What do you envision when you think of our wedding photographs? Here are a couple of styles I like, which one are you drawn to? Do you like these styled romantic fine art photographs, more candid in the moment shots or a mixture of both?”
  • “What kind of vibe do you want our wedding to have? High end, classy, romantic, laid back etc?” 
  • “When you think of our reception what kind of food/drinks do you think would best reflect us?”
  • “I am really interested in working with this vendor, what are your thoughts about their website? Is there anything that sticks out that you really like, or maybe leaves you feeling unsettled?”

Most guys approach things from a more logical and analytical standpoint so they don’t always understand why we as women are drawn to pretty things and make decisions with our emotions first and logic second. Give them room to speak their minds and ask follow up questions to understand more about why they feel the way they do 

It may take him some time to start to develop his opinions, but if you keep showing him you care, I promise he will come around!! 

2. Let Him Be In Charge Of Things He Enjoys & Feels Confident Doing

Make a list of his strengths and interests. Where can you see him fitting into the wedding planning.

  • Is he good with numbers? He can take care of the wedding budget and analyze vendor proposals. Check out this great article about how to prioritize your wedding budget.
  • Is he handy? He can help make things for the wedding decor (ceremony arch, custom centerpieces, favors etc.)
  • Does he daydream about traveling? Let him be in charge of the honeymoon planning.
  • Does he love good food and craft beer? He can be in charge of choosing the bartender and catering company
  • Is he into music? If so, I’m sure he can find the best DJ in town and choose the music

I think you’re getting the idea here, and there plenty of ways to get him involved. Every guy is different and you know yours the best. Put your thinking cap on and I am confident you will stir up some genius!!

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3. Turn Wedding Planning Into An Excuse to Date

I can remember how overwhelming the never ending decisions of wedding planning can be. There are so many things to think about and often becomes all you think about. Wedding planning can end up being hard on your relationship, so instead of looking at the planning like a chore use it as an excuse to date your man!

Set aside designated time like ‘Wedding Wednesdays’ and use it to have some wine and chat all things wedding

  • Prioritize the purpose for your meeting and what you hope to accomplish
  • Set some ground rules to keep things peaceful and on track
  • Most Importantly, remember why you fell in love with each other in the first place

On the contrary, it’s important to have days where you can take a break from wedding planning and just enjoy your life. Hang out with your family and friends, don’t always talk about the wedding, and remember your greater purpose. I think it’s so easy for us to become consumed with wedding planning that after I do, we feel completely lost.

My love/hate relationship with Pinterest

Don’t get me wrong, it’s a great & vital tool for wedding planning. However, there are just way too many ideas and it can be so overwhelming. You can spend so much of your time on Pinterest accomplishing absolutely nothing. If you’re wondering how to use Pinterest effectively and not get caught in the viscous re-pin cycle, check out this article I wrote just for you!!

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4. Include Something In The Wedding Especially For Him

The wedding industry is usually very feminine, and while lace and gold accents are BEAUTIFUL, they might make your guy feel a little left out. Make something on the wedding day just for him. Bring a touch of masculinity into the day that makes him feel like he’s a part of the party and not just a guest at yours.

Here are some examples to get your creative juices flowing:

  • Ice Cream Sandwich Bar
  • Late Night Burrito/Pizza Snack
  • Sports corner so he can check the score of his favorite game
  • At the reception, pause the dancing & include a sports segment where the guests can get involved
  • If he’s nervous about saying his vows at the ceremony, exchange them privately during your first look. {If you’re not sure what a first look is check out this article}

I hope that you have found these tips helpful. I would love for you to leave a comment below and tell us how you can see your man uniquely involved in your wedding planning. If you need help coming up with ideas leave a comment listing a few of his strengths and a brief description about him. We would love to help give you our ideas!! 

Are you looking for a photographer to document your wedding day? Let’s setup a coffee date and chat details about your wedding. I can’t wait for us to connect!

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