Your guy finally pops the question and now you’re engaged to the man of your dreams! After the champagne is poured and the news begins to spread, it’s time to start planning the day you’ve been dreaming about since you were little!
You might be wondering what you can do to include your man in the wedding planning without feeling like you are nagging him non-stop!
I am here to help!! With just a couple of tips, you can make this amazing time in your lives enjoyable and deepen your connection while building on both of your strengths. Let’s get started!!
I know this sounds obvious but make sure you are making him feel heard.
When you ask for his opinion take his response to heart
You may be the one talking the lead with the vendors and gathering ideas, but keep him informed along the way and ask for his feedback. Make the process of choosing each vendor a shared decision and soon he will enjoy giving his input instead of just saying “Sure honey, it’s your day”.
Most guys approach things from a more logical and analytical standpoint so they don’t always understand why we as women are drawn to pretty things and make decisions with our emotions first and logic second. Give them room to speak their minds and ask follow up questions to understand more about why they feel the way they do.
It may take him some time to start to develop his opinions, but if you keep showing him you care, I promise he will come around!!
Make a list of his strengths and interests. Where can you see him fitting into the wedding planning.
I think you’re getting the idea here, and there plenty of ways to get him involved. Every guy is different and you know yours the best. Put your thinking cap on and I am confident you will stir up some genius!!
I can remember how overwhelming the never ending decisions of wedding planning can be. There are so many things to think about and often becomes all you think about. Wedding planning can end up being hard on your relationship, so instead of looking at the planning like a chore use it as an excuse to date your man!
Set aside designated time like ‘Wedding Wednesdays’ and use it to have some wine and chat all things wedding
On the contrary, it’s important to have days where you can take a break from wedding planning and just enjoy your life. Hang out with your family and friends, don’t always talk about the wedding, and remember your greater purpose. I think it’s so easy for us to become consumed with wedding planning that after I do, we feel completely lost.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s a great & vital tool for wedding planning. However, there are just way too many ideas and it can be so overwhelming. You can spend so much of your time on Pinterest accomplishing absolutely nothing. If you’re wondering how to use Pinterest effectively and not get caught in the viscous re-pin cycle, check out this article I wrote just for you!!
The wedding industry is usually very feminine, and while lace and gold accents are BEAUTIFUL, they might make your guy feel a little left out. Make something on the wedding day just for him. Bring a touch of masculinity into the day that makes him feel like he’s a part of the party and not just a guest at yours.
Here are some examples to get your creative juices flowing:
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